So, I belong to some BDSM websites. A new one is called Fetlife and its like a "Facebook" for perverts. I love it. What is interesting is that so many people seem to be hooked on labels. When I say 'labels' I should also note that this also refers to the person's self-identity in the lush land of BDSM. Some call themselves Doms, Dommes, subs, bottoms and what have you. I get it. No problems there, but, what bugs me is when people challenge others on those roles. For example, at a discussion group, people who identified as a switch were compared to unicorns - aka, they don't exist. Jeepers. I understand, you have the right to your opinion, but, sometimes it is best to just keep your mouth shut. Does the title really matter? I mean, at socials and munches and events, everyone is equal, right? Unless you are collared or collared someone, then you are just another person in the room. Why do people take this so seriously? I know as humans we like to categorize - we've been doing it for centuries, but there comes a point when it gets out of hand. I often wonder if these strong-opinionated people just feel insecure. Case in point, I went to a club once and wore knee-high boots. They looked great and I felt great. Well, a person spoke down to me saying that as a submissive, I shouldn't be wearing them - that knee-high boots were 'Domme' wear. I cocked my head to one side and said, 'really? they didn't tell me that at Macy's when I bought them."

It just annoys me when people get so wrapped up in the cartoonish nature of BDSM. I don't live like a cartoon. I believe in Santa Clause and unicorns. Suck it up, buttercup.